Chicks and Dicks
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What happened in the last ten years? I honestly don’t know. Somewhere, along the path from puberty to adulthood, some souls got lost, opinions got formed, and stereotypes were built. People built walls around themselves, because… I don’t know. Maybe because everybody’s a dick?
If that’s the case, then I’m really sorry. If this is your reality, where all a guy wants is to fuck women, excuse me, girls, then this is a fucking shitty reality.
I was at a party recently. It was nice. Not my usual clientele, but still nice. I got to talk with new people. But as soon as I started talking with women there, they, for some odd reason, seemed to assume that the only reason I started talking with them, is that I want to fuck them. I have no idea why. I go to a lot of other events and don’t have that problem elsewhere.
This behavior is so wrong on so many levels, I can’t write this in passive voice:
Equality: Guys, I mean, men, if that’s what women assume, then there’s a lot we need to set straight here. If so many women assume that’s all we care about then there’s a lot of ground we need to cover. I mean a lot. There are so many emancipated men out there. Men who take care of themselves, and don’t run around fucking every pussy they can get their dick in. All this hard work in terms of equality gets destroyed in a world where becoming a "pickup artist" is a desirable lifestyle for a grown man. Men, we can do better!
Chauvinism: In a world where so many women think sex is our only desired outcome of any interaction, I wonder how many want to express their sexuality, but suppress their needs because, I don’t know… society, maybe? I think there is nothing wrong if you don’t have a desire for a monogamous romantic relationship. I think we can have that. But if you want to have this, you should be clear about it. If no word, ever, slipped your mouth leading to the assumption you want to have sex, then there shouldn’t be assumed that’s what you want. Do I think you can go out at night, meet someone and have sex with them just for the fun of it? Of course. But I also think that it’s wrong to assume that’s what everybody wants. Everybody has different needs, and we should account for that, not just assume.
Sexism: The more I think of this, the more I can’t resist the thought how sexist it is for women to assume that all I care about is sex. I don’t know, but I never make any comments in that regard, as long as I don’t feel she likes me as well, I feel we can go that route, and she’s comfortable with it. But assuming that’s what I want, without me saying it, feels wrong. I feel powerless in such a situation, because someone just assumes an intention I don’t have. It makes me be someone I don’t want to be. The bad thing: I can’t make them feel any other way. The damage is done, the conversation is over.
What kind of world did we grow into?